Stomping on grapes.
Friends accept one other for who they are, and will not in any way, attempt to change them.
Friends pay attention to the feelings of friends, bearing into mind that friends are not people you can simply stamp upon and take for granted that they will always be there for you despite the offensive remarks you sometimes hurl at them.
Friends do not make judgements against you.
Friends do not attempt to bring you down, attempt to destroy the confidence and pride you have in the person you are. Rather, they support you in whichever decisions you make, and respect you as the individual you pride yourself to be.
Friends treat each other as equals. They do not place themselves on a pedestal, deeming themselves to be in any way superior to the people around them, or their peers.
Friends do not put on airs. There’s a very fine line between sharing one’s successes, and being downright arrogant.
Recent events that have taken place, plus the amount of mulling I’ve done at home have suddenly released an onslaught of memories of a certain event which took place in July 2005 which nearly shattered me completely.
It makes me wonder why do I continue to put up with everything.
Should I continue to suffer inside, or just swallow everything down and wallow in self misery like I usually do just to let the friendship remain?
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If the above sounds familiar, yes I am talking about you.
Despite us being rather close, it’s never been easy approaching you to discuss my negative feelings, so I’ve resorted to writing it out (without disclosing identities) since I express myself better in typing anyway.
Then again, considering the pretty low opinion you’ve formed of me (adjectives you’ve used towards me in the past: naive, ‘caught in my own world’, immature), it’s pretty darn likely you’d simply brush everything aside anyway.
I’m thankful I managed to preserve my self-confidence and self-respect this time.
C O M M E N T S (5)
Bren… two years ago, you were ranting about the same issue… if this has been going on for too long, i suggest you just scream at her or something, especially seems she since to be taking everyone’s feelings for granted.
And I second that statement. Friends do NOT make judgements of others OR deem themselves better than their own friends… That’s just plain arrogance and they deserve to be decked.
Cheer up Brend! Amen bout friends part. Once i had a best friend for like 5-6 years but she was kinda insensitive and thought TOO much bout herself and now its gone. Well, such people exist so have to decide urself wad to do =). If hanging out w them makes u feel miserable den dont! =) n dun let their comments affect u!=)
-HUGS-
P.S so sorry for adding on to ur headaches.=(
I second the above comment.
if she shows no respect for you, then she doesn’t deserve your respect. so don’t bother about this kind of people because they are not worth your attention.
i can still remember the day you came home crying when the july 2005 incident took place. (yes, even though it was two years ago, i remember it like it was yesterday.) she is definitely in no position to criticise you or anyone else. having more experience in any area does NOT make her better than anyone else, neither should she deem herself as being better, putting everyone else down in the process. FUCKING arrogant, this kind of people.
bren, i suggest you just TELL her. heck about her feelings since she hecks about yours. you’ve been putting up with her behaviour for waaaay too long. TWO YEARS, woman.
heya Brenda..
Cheer up. I meet tonnes of ppl like that around me since secondary till date in SMU.
If you really feel that the friend is treating you this way, i guess to me, it aint a friend but just an acquaintance (i hope i spelt correctly)
take care alright?
*smiles*
Eric